Many of us, who go through divorce, forget that we are in control. Instead, divorce often feels as though a purse-snatcher or pickpocket has ripped us off and we are left helpless and alone at the mercy of whatever comes next. There is an alternative; divorce mediation can put you back in control and help you get what you want, without losing your wallet – or your mind.
What is Divorce Mediation?
During divorce mediation, you and your spouse sit down with an independent, impartial, highly trained professional mediator. The goal of mediation is to help you two reach an agreement on anything.
Often the discussion starts “small” such as how to divide up your kitchenware, tools, and book collection and then proceeds to issues of property division, spousal support, child support, and timesharing.
How Mediation Benefits You and Your Children
Divorce mediation helps you and your spouse learn to communicate in a businesslike fashion. Your relationship is changing so communications must reflect that change.
- When you and your spouse are on the same page, your children benefit.
- Mediation best ensures that you will have a more positive relationship with your spouse and know how to handle future interactions.
- On the other hand, if you go to court, you and your spouse will likely become enemies, embroiled in a battle. That’s what litigation does to people – even good people.
Mediation Keeps You in Control
When you work out matters in mediation, you have a say in your own future and that of your children. You stay in control.
- If you go to court, the judge, who will meet you once and never meet your children, will dictate what you have to do and when you have to do it.
- The court’s judgment is imposed upon you and your children. You have no control.
Mediation Saves You Money
Mediation costs much less than going to court.
- If you can’t work out the property settlement, spousal support, timesharing, or child support, you’ll need to ask the court for help.
- Any time you need the court’s help, you will incur court costs and significantly increased legal fees.
Where to Get Mediation Support
Although your divorce attorneys will not go into the actual mediation with you and your spouse, most folks going through mediation are represented by divorce lawyers, who provide legal advice.
- It’s imperative that you understand your legal rights and responsibilities before entering mediation or negotiations.
- In addition, your divorce attorney will review any proposed marital settlement agreement to ensure that the agreement actually says what you want it to say.